Long Distance Relationships

Dear June,

How do we make our long distance relationship work?  I live in Long Beach and my partner lives in Memphis, Tennessee.  He won't consider relocating.  Do I need to relocate to save our relationship?

Dear how do we make our long distance relationship work?

Negotiating a long distance relationship is difficult.  Here are a few things that you need to consider:

• Is negotiating where you live, the only issue that you need to resolve to save your relationship? If there are other issues that "need saving", moving won't fix everything.
• Would moving from Long Beach be harmful to your career or soul?
• Would his moving to Long Beach be harmful to his career or soul? Why won't he consider relocating?
• How long have you been dating?  If your relationship met through an internet dating service, have you actually met each other and spent considerable time together?  While internet dating services can be a good way to meet someone, internet connection is not sufficient to truly assess your relationship.

I would advise the two of you negotiate a compatible life vision to determine what will work for your long distance relationship.  Sacrificing yourself to save the relationship won't work.  You both need to be living your life purpose but together.

I hope this helps resolve your long distance question!

June Safty Odegard
Start your phone coaching sessions today to negotiate your compatible life vision!