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Past Abusive Relationship

My girlfriend, who is the love of my life and I am hers, has difficulty communicating. She was in an abusive relationship a few years back and she has a hard time feeling her opinion and feelings really count.

I tell her constantly how special she is and that what she thinks and feels means the world to me. When we have any disagreements, her initial reaction is to blame herself and say I deserve better.

I am always saying there is no right or wrong and being right means nothing to me, I just want for us to discuss things as partners. Any other tips? She acknowledges this and is trying and making progress.

Thank you so much.

H.

Christmas Gift Giving

We have all heard the song, “On the first day of Christmas, my true love gave to me….”.  Did you know that the twelve days of Christmas actually starts on Christmas day and finishes on January 6th which is the Epiphany, the day the three wise men supposedly arrived on the scene?  I always thought it was the twelve days before Christmas.

Even though it is pretty uncommon for people to actually pursue this tradition today, I thought it would be a great Christmas gift for your lover, finance or spouse.  I am not thinking of a partridge in a pear tree.  I am thinking of giving your partner something everyday that they would most appreciate and show them how much you love and value them. 

Do you know that when I have couples do the “What do you need to feel valued and loved this week?” exercise, they never ask for things.  They ask for non-monetary gifts such as respect, affection, or time and you can too. 

What if you created a special gift this Christmas for your partner giving them what they want most?  Here’s an example of some things you might consider:

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Questions to Ask While Dating

It is no easy task to know what questions to ask while dating. It is difficult to decide what is okay to ask, if you’re being too nosy or you don’t really want to know the truth.

Dr. Phil, this past week addressed this very concern when he introduced his version of three minute dating. He refers to this technique to help singles know what questions to ask while dating as “infrared dating” and discusses it in his new book, Love Smart: Find the One You Want-Fix the One You Got.

Dr. Phil empowers singles with several tactics to start substantive conversations and learn how to observe. All this allows singles to “get the real scoop” on the relationships possibilities whether you are just starting to date or considering if you should get married.