Should We Get Married?

Should I Get Married?

The best time to decide "should I get married?" is at the wedding altar before you make a legal commitment.

Can ex-lovers be just friends?

Dear June

Can ex-lovers be just friends?

I have a current girlfriend of four years.  We live in a relatively small rural community. We love each other and want a future together. Her last boyfriend still lives locally and has a current girlfriend of few years.

My girlfriend and her ex-boyfriend were just friends as young teenagers but began a relationship upon her return to the area after a marriage breakup.  She decided to break off the relationship after 4-5 years when she met me.  He initially clumsily attempted to salvage their relationship when he knew I was part of her life.  She told him clearly that I was the one in her life now. They have had only shallow or minimal contact in the last 4 years or so saying hello, how are the children? How's work going? etc…  Indeed I’ve been quite happy to chat to him whenever we have met in the local pub or in the street. But now she wants to develop their friendship again to a deeper lever. She says, she has taken four years to get to this stage. Can they be just friends?